How Your Life Got Optimized For The Wrong Outcomes

How Your Life Got Optimized For The Wrong Outcomes

How Your Life Got Optimized For The Wrong Outcomes You didn’t write the rules you’re living by, but they’re still running the show. Last week, I made the case that a new job won’t fix what’s broken inside you because what really needs upgrading isn’t your boss, your org chart, or your coffee budget. It’s your operating system. The beliefs. The habits. The mindset. The stories. All that invisible architecture quietly determining how you respond to the world. And this week, I want to take that…

A New Job Won’t Fix What’s Broken Inside You

A New Job Won’t Fix What’s Broken Inside You

A New Job Won’t Fix What’s Broken Inside You Most people think they need a new job. What they really need… is a new OS. For a long time, I told myself the story that the problem was them. My boss. My department. The bureaucratic bullshit. The endless meetings that could’ve been emails. So I jumped ship. New job. New org. New title. At first, it felt like I made the right call; new faces, unfamiliar obstacles, a different vibe. But eventually, the same old patterns crept back in: Frustration…

The 4 Types of Change (And Why You’re Focused on the Wrong One)

The 4 Types of Change (And Why You’re Focused on the Wrong One)

The 4 Types of Change (And Why You’re Focused on the Wrong One) The 4 Types of Change (And Why You’re Focused on the Wrong One) You’re not imagining it. The old world is dissolving; quietly, slowly, and then sometimes with a bang and quicker than you expect. Political systems are cracking, institutions are bleeding credibility, macroeconomic stability is wobbling, and AI is rewriting the rules of work and what it even means to be human. A lot of us are sinking into noise overload; scrolling…

Maybe More Willpower Isn’t The Answer After All

Maybe More Willpower Isn’t The Answer After All

Maybe More Willpower Isn’t The Answer After All When working harder isn’t working for you, it’s time to try a different approach. This past week, I noticed the plants in my wife’s garden suddenly burst into life after weeks of what seemed like slow or even stalled progress. Everything seemed to shoot up almost overnight, exploding in vibrant greens. Seeing how quickly this growth happened reminded me of how impatient I can often be with myself, frustrated by the sense that I should be further…

You’re Hitting All Your Goals – and Still Losing

You’re Hitting All Your Goals – and Still Losing

You’re Hitting All Your Goals – and Still Losing You’re so busy chasing success, you don’t realize it’s dragging you further from the life you actually want. If you’re a high-achiever, chances are you’re setting goals, and busting your ass to hit them. Get the promotion. Run the marathon. Save for the house. Launch the business. You know the drill. Setting goals and driving towards them is important. But here’s the problem: Very few people have a mission. Fewer still have a clear vision of…